Rules and roles in dysfunctional families keep people operating with masks and pretense. Over time this lack of authenticity results in deeply entrenched false beliefs in family members; even after a child is grown these thought patterns might be very difficult to break. The words dysfunction and sin are synonymous when used in the context of Christian counseling and heart healing. Curiously, American believers are more likely to admit they are “sinning” than to say they are “dysfunctional”; while unbelievers find it easier to say they are “dysfunctional” than that they have “sinned”. For our purposes sanctification roughly means appropriating more of the truth and becoming more real to God, others, and ourselves. As individuals face reality, their families also can become healthier, in a sense “sanctified”.